Exploring Godly Relationships
Use the following prompts to prayerfully evaluate your current or past relationships in light of biblical principles:
Examine your motivations
- Why do you desire a relationship? Are you seeking to fill inner voids like loneliness or insecurity rather than finding wholeness in Christ?
- Do you view relationships as casual and temporary or as a sacred commitment before God?
Assess relational patterns
- Do you have a history of rushed physical intimacy without emotional connection?
- Have you established clear physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries?
- Are you transparent about the relationship with spiritual leaders and friends to invite accountability and wisdom?
Evaluate spiritual fruits
- Does the relationship distract or enhance your connection with God?
- Are you pursuing spiritual activities like Bible study, prayer and church community together?
- Does the relationship inspire you to love and good deeds or drain your spiritual passion?
Discern godly compatibility
- Do you share similar values about purity, life vision and faith practices like prayer and bible reading?
- Are you equally yoked in spiritual maturity and practices?
- Do they spur you towards holiness or stumble your walk with God?
Assess relational skills
- Are you able to communicate openly, manage conflict calmly and extend forgiveness to each other?
- Do you know each other’s emotional needs and intentionally meet them with love and care?
- Do you make quality time for each other without distractions and also nurture other friendships?
Invite God’s presence
- Do you actively seek God’s will together through prayer and study of Scripture?
- Do you wait patiently on God’s timing without rushing important decisions about commitment?
- Have you surrounded the relationship with spiritual mentors and accountability partners that can offer wisdom and counsel?
I encourage you to journal about these soul-searching questions. Where is God calling you to establish healthier patterns and godlier practices in relationships? Open your heart to receive His conviction, healing, wisdom and empowerment. With God all things are possible!